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We Need to Talk About Behavioral Euthanasia

by | Sep 6, 2017 | 7 comments

We–those of us who love, live with, and/or work with dogs–will all face the euthanasia of a dog we adore at some point in our lives. Most of us will face it many, many times. Usually the dog on the other end of the needle is old, or sick, or both. But there is a type of euthanasia in which the dog dying might be physically healthy; perhaps even young and vibrant. This type is the behavioral kind; the choice to put a dog to death because his behavior makes him unfit for this human world of ours. Causing a dog’s death with intention is gut-wrenching and surreal, even when it is fair. I’ve held my old dogs in my arms as they died, knowing they’d lived fully and well, and still felt as though I was flayed and left dying myself. When Kelso’s vet ended his life I wished sincerely to lie down and die next to him. That is the kind of pain a person feels when they end the life of a dog they love. When the euthanasia comes about due to behavioral illness, rather than physical illness, the pain is no less significant. In fact, I think in many ways it is heavier; wrought with pleas of “what if” and “if only.”

A lot of people like to live in a world shaded with a fairytale that goes like this: dog behavior is predictable, malleable, and all dogs are inherently good. Yet more people live in this fantasy: all behavior can be controlled in all circumstances so long as all tools are left on the table. It is time we all own up to these truths: dogs have their own free will, and a mouth full of teeth. While we can set them up for success, train them to the best of our abilities, and do our best to keep them safe life happens and failures occur. If a minor slip in management means a child loses his lip or another household pet loses his life, there might be some tough decisions to be made here. Training is never ironclad and management is never bulletproof. Animals are animals and if failures in these things mean severe bodily injury or death to family members behavioral euthanasia is an ethical choice. 20863603_10212474617733543_4681654664066537771_o

I can hear it from the masses now, so let’s talk about rehoming. There certainly are times when a dog’s behavior simply makes him unsuitable for his current home, and not unsuitable for the human world at large. Minor aggression toward specific family members like the cat, another dog, the husband/wife, or even the kids might warrant placing said dog in a home void of his triggers. I once placed a client dog in a home with a single woman and her three cats after he snapped at the resident toddler in his first home. He had never caused anyone harm, she was in her 50s with no plans of having children or having any in her life, and they lived happily ever after. On the flipside of this coin a friend of mine adopted a dog (we’ll call him Max) from a respected rescue in her area; he had been surrendered to a local shelter for aggression toward a child in his home. Max was lovely, sweet, and passed all of the rescue’s evaluations with flying colors. His foster mom cried the day he left; said that kid must have been pretty awful to him to make him bite. Fast forward six months: my friend’s son is left disfigured and traumatized after Max bit his face and shook. He spent Christmas day in surgery to reattach his lip and cheek to his skull. The kid had stumbled toward the dog in the front yard off his new Christmas hover-board. Everyone was supervised. Everyone had enough space. Everyone had been living in harmony for months.

The original family did not take responsibility; they dumped Max on someone else, he fell into the hands of a rescue that takes dogs of his breed out of shelters, and he hit the jackpot as far as homes go. My friend and her son paid the price, and Max is dead. There are numerous other ways this story could have gone so suffice it to say that I wish people would take responsibility for the dogs they bring into their lives. Rehoming a dog with a severe aggression or bite history is not ethical in any set of circumstances. The kind of damage done does matter here; we know that the best predictor of damage-inflicting bites is previous damage-inflicting bites.

When it comes down to it, behavioral euthanasia is a choice one sometimes has to make for the greater good, and it hurts the person who doles out the sentence. To pretend that it is a callous act is in itself a callous act. I have personally assisted on two behavioral euthanasias, both in cases of severe child-directed aggression, and both times I grieved. Both times I tossed and turned, thinking of the dogs that had been done wrong by our world; dogs that would have survived just fine as wild foragers, or even in other homes. I have consulted on a handful more, and each time I did so because when a dog commits an act of violence that is so severe as to limit his ability to go on living in a social environment the life of every dog on earth is threatened. We should all feel it when a dog bites a child; a ripple toward those of us who love dogs and wish to keep them in our homes. We must take responsibility for these animals, apply effective training, and if it becomes necessary to do so, take a life. It is the deal we have struck.

 

7 Comments

  1. Kathleen

    Thank you for writing this.

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    • Rebekaah

      Thank you. The words you write in the first paragraph are as if I had written them myself.

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  2. Nicole

    I’m trying to gather as much information on this subject because in the rescue world there are two teams, those that believe every dog can be saved and those that don’t believe every dog can be saved. It’s such a hard call and one we never want to make. Thanks for writing about it.

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  3. Jen

    I am trying to make this decision now. It’s so difficult. It’s heartbreaking. There are no words to explain the way I feel. Thank you for writing this.

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  4. Marissa J Wells

    Thank you so much for writing this. I’m dealing with my first behavioral euthanasia and your words have really helped.

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  5. Susan Richardson

    Thankyou for writing and posting such honest words. I am a broken hearted lady who will forever be missing a special collie being by her side or running free but never quite letting me out his sight – loving life. A life that I made the decision to stop. Goes against everything I believed in. I loved him and tried to protect him and keep his world safe but despite all my efforts I was fighting genetics and a behaviour he just couldn’t control. Why would I want to pass him onto someone who didn’t know him and his ways and risk him seriously harming an innocent or being mistreated because of how he had reacted. When you love dogs and they are your reason for everything you never imagine ever having that decision to make – and it wasn’t to protect myself. I will suffer to the end of my days with my decision and will forever be trying to put back some good into the world of other dogs. Please be kind if your paths cross with someone facing the same awful decision – it’s never done because we don’t love them.

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  6. Fisher

    I’m coming here long after this post was written, but I can’t thank you enough for writing it. I’m also going through the process and I can’t believe how all over the emotional spectrum it’s made me. There’s this weight of sorrow, sorrow that things can’t be undone, like our dog sent my partner to the emergency room and nearly sent me there too, and yet there is a 80% or 90% of him in other times that were wonderful, where taking care of him and giving him joy was so easy and so rewarding and so meaningful. It’s a sorrow to have that all climax with this outlier aggressive attack and know that after that, like once that threshold is crossed, there’s no going back, you can’t undo that behavior happened. It’s not fair, but that’s presuming that fair exists and in this situation, it exists relative to a specific dog, a specific you. It’s been hell. I really appreciate that you wrote this

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